Amistranslation has been running for a very long time. It says: to merge with the divine, you must disappear. The mystic dissolves. The ego dies. The self is consumed in the fire of union and what is left is the divine alone, with no one home to enjoy it. This is, with respect to several millennia of devotional poetry, a misreading. The poets were describing an experience, and the commentators turned the experience into a requirement.
Lila proposes a different shape. Union is not subtraction. Union is elaboration. The self does not vanish into the divine; the self becomes a more particular, more textured, more specificinstance of the divine playing at being you. The merger is not the end of you. It is the moment you finally arrive as yourself, with the full backing of the universe behind your particular arrangement of atoms.
This matters because the misreading does harm. It teaches sensitive people to suspect their own persistence. It teaches lovers that the highest love is the one in which they cease to exist. It teaches seekers that the goal of the search is to no longer be the one who searches. None of this is necessary. None of it is even particularly mystical. It is, mostly, a confusion between spaciousness and erasure.
"Union is the room growing larger, not the self growing quieter."
I. The grammar of merger
Two verbs that are often confused.
To dissolve and to widen are different verbs. They produce different bodies. A dissolved self is small and apologetic; it apologises for taking up space even after it has finished disappearing. A widened self is generous and undefended; it makes more room for other selves because it is no longer rationing its own room.
The ecstatic moment is the second one. It is not the moment you stopped being you. It is the moment being you stopped being a problem.
"It is not the moment you stopped being you. It is the moment being you stopped being a problem."
II. Union in the ordinary
Where it actually arrives.
Union, in the Lila reading, is rarely loud. It arrives in the moment between waking and remembering the inbox. It arrives in the third sip of good coffee. It arrives in a conversation where two people stop performing for each other. It arrives at the end of an exhalation that was allowed to be slightly longer than usual. None of these are small. We have only been trained to under-read them.
If you wait for the spectacular union, you may wait a long time. If you collect the small ones, you will discover, after a season or two, that they have been arranging themselves into a life.
III. With other bodies
Union is plural, or it is not interesting.
The interior union is real and worth practising. The plural union — between bodies, between colleagues, between a teacher and a room, between lovers, between strangers on a train who accidentally synchronise their breath — is the proof. If your interior union does not eventually show up in the room with other people, it is probably a sophisticated form of avoidance dressed in Sanskrit. Lila is gregarious. It plays best when there are several players.
"Lila is gregarious. It plays best when there are several players."
A reader's correction
"I had been trying to disappear into love for fifteen years. The article suggested I appear into it instead. The relationship has not been the same since — better, mostly, and embarrassingly so."
— — M., Mexico City
Integration Notes
What remains after the reading.
- 01Union is widening, not dissolving. The self stays.
- 02Most union arrives quietly, in the under-read moments of an ordinary day.
- 03Interior union that doesn't show up in the room with others is avoidance in Sanskrit.
- 04The proof of the practice is plural.
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